Press Release (ePRNews.com) - PALM SPRINGS, Calif. - Nov 02, 2018 - For decades, self-esteem experts have told us that boosting self-esteem depends upon affirmations, radical self-acceptance, and cognitive strategies to alter negative beliefs we hold about ourselves. This approach turns building self-esteem into a solitary activity and makes it all about the self.
In his forthcoming book (“Shame”, St. Martin’s Press, Nov. 6), clinical psychologist and media commentator Dr. Joseph Burgo debunks this view and argues that building self-esteem actually takes place within our most intimate relationships. Backed by studies of infant brain development and the latest neuroscience, Joe shows that throughout life, building self-esteem depends upon the same three conditions:
(1) setting and reaching goals, even small ones, leading to
(2) pride in achievement, which will consolidate true self-esteem when we
(3) share our joy in achievement with the people who matter most to us
In short, authentic self-esteem thrives within an interpersonal context.
Joe also shows that all forms of shame aren’t toxic, and that shame and self-esteem are not true opposites, as most people believe. Shame sometimes has a lesson to teach us – about who we are and the person we expect ourselves to be.
Building authentic self-esteem depends in part on being able to listen to and learn from shame when it tells us we’ve violated our own values, disappointed realistic expectations we hold for ourselves, or diminished ourselves in the eyes of people we love and respect.
Joe is also the author of “The Narcissist You Know” (Touchstone 2015) and the voice behind the Psychology Today blog “Shame.” His articles and commentary have appeared in The New York Times, the Washington Post, The Atlantic, USA Today, and many other national publications. He has been a guest on dozens of radio programs, including NPR, and also appeared on local and national television.
Advance praise for “Shame”:
“With the skill of a master storyteller, Burgo vividly brings to life, through his clients’ struggles and his own, our shared journey to accepting a startling truth: shame can either hobble us or help us thrive; it all depends on what we do with it. Savor this book’s lessons and exercises. You’ll come away with the kind of self-compassion that makes us all better people.”
– Dr. Craig Malkin, lecturer, Harvard Medical School, and author of the internationally acclaimed “Rethinking Narcissism.”
Michael Eha & Associates
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