​​What Do You Say This Mother's Day to a Mother Whose Baby or Child Has Passed Away?

Press Release (ePRNews.com) - PORTLAND, Ore. - Apr 23, 2019 - Grief. On the best days, it’s a persistent ache, on the worst days, debilitating anguish. For the mother who has lost a child, Mother’s Day, in particular, magnifies the ache of her empty arms. “It doesn’t matter if it is a spouse, parent, sibling, grandparent or good friend, everyone wants to know what to say to support the mother and remember their loss, without fumbling over words and creating more pain,” says Pam Vredevelt.

For a grieving mother, watching the world celebrate what she has lost can make Mother’s Day a symphony of pain like no other.  While there are bittersweet moments of reflection and happy memories, there is also profound sadness and need to receive loving support.

Moms who have suffered a miscarriage, stillbirth, loss of a baby, child or adult child each grieve at their own pace and in their own unique way. While they appreciate words of comfort, remembrance and support, one of the most common responses is the worst one — to say nothing at all.

Vredevelt says, “When I talk to patients and parents who have suffered a pregnancy loss or have lost babies and children, they all say that the people around them want to say something but don’t know what to say. Those awkward moments are uncomfortable for everyone.”

The video series covers seven unique conversations that a variety of family members, friends and community leaders can communicate to moms on Mother’s Day. Each video includes sample messages that may be written in a card or simply said to the mother who is missing her baby or child.

Pam Vredevelt is joined by her daughter, Jessie Vredevelt Schultz, who suffered two miscarriages last year.  Her unique perspective validates the heartbreaking grief of babies who don’t come to term.

“These videos are designed to share compassionate, caring, personal messages of remembrance and support on mom’s favorite day. Our hope is that anyone can use the tips we cover to open heartfelt conversations that promote healing and grief relief,” says Vredevelt.

“Our hope is that people will find these resources compelling and that they’ll pave the way for meaningful conversations that bring hope and healing to moms.”

The seven free videos, conversation starters and sample phrases for writing the perfect personalized message in a card or note are here: https://pamvredevelt.com/mothers-day-what-can-you-say/

Media contact: Pam Vredevelt at 503-661-7733 or by email at pam@pamvredevelt.com